Clarify how redacted_because actually works for events (#3411)

* Clarify how redacted_because actually works for events

* changelog

* mention federation

* Fix wording

Co-authored-by: Richard van der Hoff <1389908+richvdh@users.noreply.github.com>

Co-authored-by: Richard van der Hoff <1389908+richvdh@users.noreply.github.com>

changelogs/client_server/newsfragments/3411.clarification

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+Clarify how `redacted_because` is meant to work.

content/client-server-api/_index.md

@@ -1593,17 +1593,15 @@ some events cannot be simply deleted, e.g. membership events, we instead
 not required by the protocol. This stripped down event is thereafter
 returned anytime a client or remote server requests it. Redacting an
 event cannot be undone, allowing server owners to delete the offending
-content from the databases. Events that have been redacted include a
+content from the databases. Servers should include a copy of the 
-`redacted_because` key whose value is the event that caused it to be
+`m.room.redaction` event under `unsigned` as `redacted_because` 
-redacted, which may include a reason.
+when serving the redacted event to clients.
 
 The exact algorithm to apply against an event is defined in the [room
 version specification](../index.html#room-versions).
 
-The server should add the event causing the redaction to the `unsigned`
+When a client receives an `m.room.redaction` event, it should change
-property of the redacted event, under the `redacted_because` key. When a
+the affected event in the same way a server does.
-client receives a redaction event it should change the redacted event in
-the same way a server does.
 
 {{% boxes/note %}}
 Redacted events can still affect the state of the room. When redacted,